在急診室的觀察與婚姻諮商的經驗，陳永儀發現，父母離世、夫妻失和時，總是令人悔恨而哀痛不已。如何不讓人生留下遺憾，陳永儀提出，首先應決定事情的優先順序；再者，要學習認識自己的情緒，並適當地表達。

陳永儀表示，在大腦裡面的神經元，做不同事情就會形成不同的迴路，越常用的迴路走得越順暢。習慣用理性解釋事情的人，會愛用邏輯辯論，人家就越講不過他；反之，感性的人，就會越來越敏感。你是用什麼情緒的人呢？大腦的迴路可以調整，如果更認識自己，就有機會改進表達情緒的方式，用最合適的方式面對重要他人。

Clinical psychologist May Chen has heard one too many "If I'd known..." expressions in her line of work. Many of these regrets stem from the face of tragedy, especially when dealing with the loss of a loved one. While it's human tendency to berate ourselves for the decisions we’ve made in the past, May offers some helpful tips on how we can shift our perspectives and our priorities so that in the aftermath of loss, we properly grieve without giving in to guilt. -----

陳永儀是一位興趣廣泛的心理學家。在心理學的領域裡，涉獵的範圍包括: 組織，社會，健康，犯罪，與臨床心理學。目前她是國立中央大學認知神經科學研究所的心理學教授，研究項目包括暴力與性侵犯的心理評估，以及學童的EQ發展訓練。但研究重點主要是壓力，情緒，與健康。

May Chen is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in areas of organizational, social, health, forensic, and clinical psychology. She currently teaches at the National Central University in Taiwan, where her main research focus is in the areas of stress, emotions, and health. May's most recent projects include EQ development and trainings for school children as well as psychological evaluations of violent sex offenders. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx